Sun 15 Jun 2008
The Psychology of Our Aunt Nira
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Our aunt Nira is our mom’s younger sister. From birth, she was always one of our favorite people—it wasn’t because she carried a pack of gum with her or that we could always count on her to take us out to pizza.
Nira always had an unwavering belief in us. Neither one of us had self-esteem issues, but if you compare our own self-perception with how Nira viewed us, it was like night and day.
A couple of months ago, Nira came from Israel for a month-long visit. She’s been having some health issues lately, and we knew what a big deal it was for her to make the trip. As we were sitting talking to Nira, we noticed that not much has changed. We’re no longer kids, but Nira’s belief in us is still unwavering. “I’m telling you, everything you’ll do will turn out great. Wait and see.”
Yes, as adults we can logically question Nira’s relentless optimistic view of us. But there’s something very touching about her unconditional love. We also wonder about the psychology of it all: Did Nira’s viewing us in such a positive light help us live up to the role she ascribed to us?
Psychological forces aside, though, it’s Nira’s support that inspired us to dedicate Sway to her.

January 12th, 2009 at 8:23 am
You have to “wonder” about the impact of Aunt Nira’s faith in you?
Really?
I have no doubt whatsoever that treating people as the perfect versions of themselves does indeed make them strive to live up to that image - as long as the image that dictates the behaviour really is based on THEM, not on some abstract idea of what they “should” be like, alien to them as individuals, naturally.
The reasons for such a cause & effect dynamics seem simple enough, but in reality (I believe) they transcend the purely psychological sphere.
But that is a different matter, certainly not “comment” material…
Love your work!